Stuck!

Moaning vs the positivity police

I have been really struggling for what to write here for a little while, I have found that things have been a little stuck business wise and I think that has affected the creative juices.

So in desperation I thought I would get it out in the open. I'm stuck! There said it. 

I gave it some thought and  remembered that as a counselor I would always encourage difficulties to be aired. There is power in just speaking the words, and getting things out into the room. So I thought possibly the same technique may work here and bingo ! A two whole paragraphs. On a serious note actually speaking the words on something that is blocking you can really help , the relief in admitting to or acknowledging something can be like breaking the dam and the emotion and understanding that follows can be amazing.

Having given my 'stuckness' some thought I do feel that there were several causes. Firstly everything around me seemed stuck and so , I will admit , there was a bit of grumpy sulking going on. Which really wasn't great for encouraging creativity.

Secondly I was very conscious of not being a 'moaner'. Each subject I thought of seemed to lead to a big old moan, and I am a great believer that moaning is a bit of a waste of energy. It's really much better to take action and here I think is where my real problem lies. I am currently dealing with some discrimination from an organisation who really ought to know better and because they are a monopoly there really is not much I can do. Hence I am feeling a bit impotent , and that I am afraid to say has overflowed into other areas of my life including this blog. 

Finally although I do believe that remaining positive can really help (I have first hand experience in this) I am getting increasingly hacked off with therapists/life coaches/spirtual counselors etc who say ' I can find the positive in anything'. Bullshit! Excuse my french but sometimes things are crap - they just are , and accepting that is part of life. It's accepting that, working through it and finding a way to be positive afterwards that is the real skill.

So I have accepted that being stuck is crap, I have worked through what I feel is causing the 'stuckness' and accepted that I will deal with what I can and try to let go of what, right now, I can't change and trust in a little bit of karma. By doing this I have started to make some progress, baby steps working on things I can change has bought me to different places and I have met new people and once again things are up and running!

This blog post is just a personal exploration of what being stuck is like for me and what I did, I hope it helps anyone else that reads it. Please feel free to add a comment or any ideas you have for dealing with 'stuckness' in your life. And please don't forget there is always help out there to talk through these and bigger issues if you feel you would like to.

Thank you

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