Letting it go

Letting it go....

Let it go, time to move on , put it behind you -  how many times have we said that or worse heard that ! Even if its from a valued friend, and we know they are right,  just how helpful is it to hear this when your heart is breaking or you are still furious? And what does it mean any way .... Move on?? To where exactly?? And most importantly HOW!

I guess moving on means different things to different people, personally I hate all of those phrases and become incredibly frustrated when I hear them, personally I think they are empty words we use when we feel the need to say something but haven't a clue what to say (but that could be my stuff!).

I prefer to think of it as finding peace for now, but have found that this meditation/visualization is helpful if a particular emotion/person/situation is making it difficult for you to be peaceful!

Relax, and sit with you feet flat on the ground, imagine roots growing down through your feet into the earth, deep into the earth. Breathe , slowly and deeply , close your eyes, and imagine yourself in a field, on top of a small hill, feel the grass under your feet, it's soft, and a luscious bright green. The sun is shining, the sky is blue and as you walk to the top of the hill you can see beautiful countryside stretching out for miles around you. At the top there is an oak tree with a bench underneath it, take a seat and relax, after a few minutes  you notice to your side there is a balloon on a piece of string tied to the bench, you know that this is for you so you untie it and take it in your hands. You reach into your pocket and find a felt tip pen and write on the balloon, the name of the person/feeling/situation you wish to release or you want to ask for help with. You take the balloon and walk out from under the tree, out into the field, into the beautiful green space. You look up to the blue sky , and gently release your grip on the string on your balloon, watch it float up, further and further away from you, becoming smaller and smaller, so small that is a dot in the blue sky and then so tiny that you can now longer see it it disappears, lost in the atmosphere and with it goes your words leaving you with just a feeling of peace a serenity. Take a deep breath and sigh its time to return, walk slowly down the hill bringing your awareness back into your room, wiggle your fingers and toes, open your eyes , take a drink of water.... welcome back!

Give it a try, I hope it helps!

©JaneHeron2013

The rule of Ten !

When to fight and when to let it go!

Often in my life I have ranted and raved and wound myself up over all sorts of things , from the tiny little annoying things to fairly major challenges. Often though there comes a time when we have limited capacity for worrying and stressing and we really need to pick our fights carefully as we just don't have the energy to fight them all at the same time.

The rule of 10 is a useful tool to use when deciding just which of the nasty niggles you are going to let go and which of the nasty niggles you are going to take by the scruff of the neck and deal with. It works like this ..... is the annoying woman in the office bitching about you still going to annoy you in 10 minutes .... yes ? How about ten hours, or days? Will she still be important to you in ten months , what about ten years? This can certainly help to get things in perspective and if the niggle really wont be important to you in ten days time , maybe save your energy and let it go ? 

If however the issue is more serious and it is a question of moral values say,  that would bother you years later, if you don't address it and in ten years time you feel that you should have done something about it, then I would say go for it, take the bull by the horns and deal with it as best you can, fight your corner, give as good as you get and don't go away quietly.

Whenever I am faced with this dilemma now I ask myself, will I care in ten days time? If the answer is yes I grasp the nettle and deal with it, if the answer is no I let it go!

©JaneHeron2013