Often in my life I have ranted and raved and wound myself up over all sorts of things , from the tiny little annoying things to fairly major challenges. Often though there comes a time when we have limited capacity for worrying and stressing and we really need to pick our fights carefully as we just don't have the energy to fight them all at the same time.
The rule of 10 is a useful tool to use when deciding just which of the nasty niggles you are going to let go and which of the nasty niggles you are going to take by the scruff of the neck and deal with. It works like this ..... is the annoying woman in the office bitching about you still going to annoy you in 10 minutes .... yes ? How about ten hours, or days? Will she still be important to you in ten months , what about ten years? This can certainly help to get things in perspective and if the niggle really wont be important to you in ten days time , maybe save your energy and let it go ?
If however the issue is more serious and it is a question of moral values say, that would bother you years later, if you don't address it and in ten years time you feel that you should have done something about it, then I would say go for it, take the bull by the horns and deal with it as best you can, fight your corner, give as good as you get and don't go away quietly.
Whenever I am faced with this dilemma now I ask myself, will I care in ten days time? If the answer is yes I grasp the nettle and deal with it, if the answer is no I let it go!
©JaneHeron2013
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